Yet another Noisy-neurons day. It
is one of the toughest situations, you put yourself into when your sleep gets disturbed
at 12.30 AM for unknown reasons and you constantly fail resuming it. Usually music
helps to put me back to sleep, but it couldn’t help today. Accepting the
failure is better sometimes and so I did come here to my own space. Writing is
one of the mind massaging tasks to me 😊 It just helps me to introspect and have a
better clarity on anything! Oh yeah, I had to tell what this post is about. As usual, visiting blog with
sleep-disturbed-neurons means, I din have anything predetermined to write. Though
my neurons are so tired but are flashing
back some light to me and of course they will only help me with a day-old scenario.
I said they are tired right 😊
otherwise too, my memory is becoming weaker these days and I am unable to
remember ppl faces and their names, may be too much of training instances are
difficult to handle 😊 Lets
lock the topic before I start meandering again. It is one of my favourite
policies, “unconditionality”!
A faculty came to my cabin yesterday,
he is a young doctorate and a friend of my research scholar and also my
co-faculty, Srini. He was fretting and fuming about going unrecognized despite doing
hard work and helping all the professors with the funded project proposals. Before
he got so serious, I just told him, “Most of the people talk to us with many
calculations in mind and they may or may not repay”. He asked, “If I collaborate
with you or help you, won’t you give me a small recognition at least”. I said, “yes,
I will”. He said, “then why not them?”. I told him, “How can I give guarantee for
someone else whose control is not with me”. He said, “No I am not able to
accept”. I started smiling and asked his age, “he said he is 30” and I said, “I
am 36 and you will get my point clear when you reach 36”. He also started smiling
and said, “may be”. It was a very short conversation and I had to leave for a
meeting soon after this but then I was like thinking how people get frustrated when
they have some expectations that go unfulfilled 😊
Long back until I reached 30+
even I had expectations with people. Have tied to please people in the family and
friends but yes may failures and disappointments mould you as a better person.
What I learnt was people don’t fulfil your expectations and it is wiser to have
zero expectations towards anyone. This unconditional policy has given a lot of
peace and yeah happiness and have changed my perception towards life. When you
treat people with zero bias (machine learning terminology? 😊)
they will gradually understand and maybe they will start treating you the same
way you did. Zero bias also induce reduced
complexity in your behaviour. You don’t need to change your behaviour person to person and you see it is so
difficult to remember all the calculations connected with a person like “what they will repay ,when they will repay
and how much they will repay?” It is all utter non sense and Karma of course
takes care 😊 Most
of the times, I have got help from unknown persons. Many times this has
happened and I am sure they did not have any calculations with me so its fair
enough to reflect the same.
Yes, you get abundant peace. I
seriously these days laugh like anything (of course yes to myself 😊)
when people get boiled for silly reasons and yeah these days, I am not able to
boil up my blood though I feel like I should. It is okay . Anyways people don’t
change for us and It is mere waste of time and energy boiling our blood. The
point I am trying to make is simple. It is purely our choice to treat people the
way we want or the way they deserve but treating them with predictions for future
benefits will surely fail 😊
Yes, you get abundant love. This
is very important. An unconditional love given pays back in huge not in terms
of money or any business benefits 😊, I am pointing on the positivity that is
generated around us. May be the more positivity enters, the less negativity prevails,
may be this can even weaken the negativity if at all it is existing around
still.
Yes, it does change people’s
behaviour towards you, the same way you expected initially. I have personally
experienced this . When you keep treating people better than they do to you,
they will never ever have a choice than changing for you and this is a real
victory but this takes a huge time .
I think I should stop her and I
need a small nap to gear up for the day and 3 hrs exam invigilation duty
awaiting in the afternoon and my reduced
sleep will surely have an impact. Let us see how it goes. Have a fantastic day
ahead 😊
And yes, thanks for reading
Subalalitha
