My Learnings and Findings on Humans :)

My god last week was a happy week speaking to my old PG and Tacola friends as they were wishing for my birthday. Many forgot my birthday and few days later they confirmed with me and then wished 😊 Few asked when is my birthday on my birthday and then wished LOL .Anyways, they are the stress busters and make you feel young ( I am aging ☹), and bring out the ME, ten years back.  That day, I was speaking to one of my friend in my room using VAadi podi jargons missing to notice  the presence of my Phd scholars (who are co faculties too) in my room. They are my friends too but still I have dropped using those jargons and felt bit strange. I have become more formal these days in the way of talking except with few set of reliable people. Somehow these days I feel talking less feels better at times ( Again , I  am aging and changing ☹)

Yeah I am aging, changing and  I believe I am  getting matured but one person on earth will never  ever accept this. Selva always thinks that I am immature and treats  both me and our daughter on a same scale. He still thinks people deceive me. Recently, I felt bad when our common PG friends came home and Selva  was telling them that he is not even worried of our daughter but more worried of me and I am not even fit to cross the road.  He was citing one of 10 years old examples of turning my head left and right many times to cross that one-way-road before Anna University  and   he was waiting to pick  up me on the other end.  Adakadavule, he is still ten years back and my aging factor is  completely invisible to him. KAshtam da samy.  But the fact is that I am now ready to handle humans, Its not that I am unaware of ppl deceiving me, I know but I am ignoring their negativity.  If the negativity is ok to accept, I put up with them (You have no other go these days) but when the negativity is  very high, then I stay away to the max! But the good news is that I still   have large set of  people around  who I rely on and  can  talk without that precautioned mind .

I am sorry, I forgot to tell about what this post is about. At least  it striked me  after  typng  two paragraphs 😊. I just wanted to write my observations about humans. Like a Machine Learning Algorithm that trains with many data and during testing it can classify the unknown data,  now I am ready for testing and can judge people as I am aging and have seen many instances of humans. Still Selva wont accept this maturity in me but I am fine with that 😊 This post is about my findings and learnings on/from  Humans.

Let me start  about the nicest part. Let me bring the positive air in.  I believe in the Positive Vibe much, so starting with the brighter side and then I would append the rest.

Disclaimer: These are not pieces of advice and I don't have rights to do so. These are just my learnings and findings that match my way of thinking.  So no misunderstandings, please. Now, please go ahead :)

• ª       People are nice, and they reflect their nicest part better when you be nice to them.
• ª       You make friends with whom your wavelength matches the most despite few  differences.
• ª       Its ok to neglect the negativity of people when they are majorly positive and can’t be hated for that negligible part.
  
  
• ª       You will be surprised to see people whom you missed to notice respects you the most and comes to help when you are in need.
• ª       True friends don’t talk frequently but check with us if we are travelling correctly with or without our knowledge.
• ª       Blessings help and the more you get blessings from the elders, the more it pays back.
• ª       Its better to stick to ground and remain the same which attracts positive people to stay with you for long.
• ª       People who have concern on you does not reveal it by speech but show up through their acts. They see to that you don’t get into trouble and warn you whenever things are going wrong.
• ª       People respect you for your character, the way you treat them, the way you speak to them and they are least bothered about what you wear and how you look.
• ª       Way of Speaking, changing the modulation no matter of what’s boiling inside, changes and lightens the situation and even changes the person in due course of time.
• ª       We can earn respect by not responding to the unwanted conversations and the next conversation becomes purer.
• ª       Its ok to forget and forgive people for their mistakes but the learnings should be remembered as it will help later.
• ª       The more we keep up the calm and can’t be harsh in words, the more we get hurt. People test our patience, sometimes it's ok to tell them what we feel.
• ª       People who are consistent in their behaviours are reliable. It hurts when people change their expressions from  time to time, when we remain the same ☹
• ª       Sometimes we may have to struggle hard to make people  understand and believe  us, but the time comes and they will.
• ª       The Less we have expectations, the more we are going to extend our happiness. Expectation kills. There is no point in expecting.
• ª       Trying to change ourselves is easier than trying to change others.

The list is going  long. I stop here. I feel, people teach you more than any book or philosophies.  The more people you are dealing with, more easier the life would be as every instance of human we meet,  teach you to  handle the rest of their similar instances, good or bad (Sorry for this lengthy sentence . Hope you got it straight !) Accepting their positivity helps us to grow and be happy.

Please take positivity and be happy!

Thanks for reading till the end !

Subalalitha