Paradigm Shifts

Wow.. long time no bloggingt..but happy that I have not shed  writing yet ... 

And yeah will have to tell that, this is my first post as a mom.... Really hard to believe sometimes that, I have grown up and taking care of a baby.  Untill I entered  marriage life, I remember me as a person who was least bothered of responsibilities. Going to school and then to  college  and later running to anna univ up and down from home were the only useful deeds I could think of when I look back . Even cooking a dinner after returning home will seem as a rock weight responsibility. Actually I was worse than what I have described here. Then, came the marriage life.  Actually came to know what is  real cooking only after marriage. Thanks to the victim Mr. Selva, My real life thyaagi. Below are some of the cooking mess ups I did during our early days of marriage

* Cooked sambar without dhal.

* Made upma as bayangara Upppuuuumaaaaa

* Added some ten spoons of sugar to make 1 kg kesari

With these poor cooking talent, I some how managed my PhD morning classes and work. Thanks to  Hotel AdyarSangeetha and Hot Chips for helping me during my exams :)But today after 3 years of marriage life, I have reached the comfort zone in cooking to an extent. Dont know if Selva has reached the same comfort zone in eating what i cook... Not only cooking, I think,a girl needs to change completely after marriage and  so I did. Life before marriage was so care free. U can get up late during holidays , No  to washing clothes/vessels, arranging things in every room daily, cleaning toilets ,buying vegies, grocery and the list goes on . .All these responsibilities get hold of the girl on that one single day. Living in a nuclear family adds up its own disadvantages and if u don have a maid, welcome to the club!!!.It’s really terrific. The toughest job is to put a budget when the month starts to avoid dandanakaa month ends. I dont deny husband does the earning part better but I feel, we girls need to have that extra X  factor to keep the family's growth graph running upwards steadily.

My doll and her doll 

                                         

Ooohoooooo then comes the motherhood. The day of attaining mother hood takes not only the girl but the entire family to really a different world. I never knew that I could survive with just one hour sleep a day. Even on the day just before I entered mother hood, 8 hours of continuous sleep was my minimum requirement to make my day. Today,  it is almost a dream ! Looks like, I am piling up all the dark fantasies. Yeah the bright side does exist and keeps you smile amidst the entire onus on you. The wow feeling of holding my lil angel, see her smiling, crying, yawning and sleeping, is amazing. Top to toe, she has that magic. Watching her stages of growth is yet another boon. Reaching back to square one and growing along with her is bliss and the good old memories that chirp in mind is a bonus.  Waiting for her next stage is thrilling and seeing her try for that without giving up is a lesson for life.

Growing up a baby is mere trial and error I would say. You may get tons of advices right from day one. Sometime I get tired of these advises and get confused  most of the time. I would say, advices have the following characteristics

• Advises contradict each other.
• They do help at times.
• They confuse u to the maximum.
• They will make pediatrician giggle or at times get angry on u.
• They will make u browse at least ten baby related websites hundred times a day.
• Last but not the least, they come for free.

This is my experience. If you have observed /suffered some more characteristics, you are most welcome to add them up here. I hope I am on the right path of raising up my angel.

Feel like writing more but the time space given by my lil madam is quiet short so signing off for now. Guess these paradigm shifts and also my posts on this topic will continue accordingly

Thanks for reading.